Courage

Courage I.

When your heart is hardened, that is a sign of weakness,

not strength.

It takes courage and a hell of a lot of strength to love just as intensely, if not more, after experiencing pain. So, be brave. Be brave and know it is okay to take time to heal. Just make sure the wall you built as your defense mechanism does not feel like home, but more like a temporary guest while you

get

back

on

your

feet.

Courage II.

You get to consciously decide what has meaning and what doesn’t. If you do decide to give meaning to situations or day-to-day things, you get to decide what meaning to give these said things.

“A wall.”

What comes to mind when you think of a wall? Give that some thought.

Naturally, a wall is usually seen a tool of protection through blockage or avoidance. But what if you change its meaning to something more proactive, with a bigger purpose?

Allow this temporary wall that you have built after pain to be a way to channel that energy into self love, into understanding how you work, into self-awareness and into growth.

Re-define “pain” and “hardship” and do not let all that suffering be in vain, but learn from it and use it as a tool to grow, instead.

Courage III.

Do not avoid. Face every single feeling, no matter how much you have tried to forget. Write it down, sing it, paint it, whatever. Do something with it so it exits that small corner in your heart

and your mind

and your ego.

Be proud of how far you have come. It is only then that you can truly get to know yourself; when you give yourself the chance to forgive yourself for all the pain you allowed within you and maybe even inflicted onto others.

Courage IV.

Compassion takes courage.

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Growth

Just breathe. And understand there is never personal growth without a hardship and a lesson truly learned.

Maybe this is a little twisted and contradicting, but part of me feels a sort of release when I am going through a hard obstacle. I do not believe anything is random, and I do not believe you are ever handed anything that is too much for you to handle. When it rains it pours, yes- but instead of burying yourself in these things that have taken place, listen. Listen to what life is trying to tell you. Use your struggle as a tool, and truly (truly, from your heart) learn from it.

This is called growth. I feel so lucky that certain situations have crossed my path at such a young age. I will be so much more prepared in many aspects of my life thanks to these lessons.

Real Eyes

I am not sure how I feel about the saying “Real Eyes Realize Real Lies”- at least not the way I interpret it.

To me, Real Eyes are honest. Humble. Transparent.

Real Eyes may have pain, or they may not- but they never have deceit. Or malicious intent.

Real Eyes do not have an agenda because they don’t need one. Because they don’t want one.

An agenda is nothing but an archive with alphabetized lies, or, depending on the person, they could also be chronologically organized.

The thing with Real Eyes is that they are naïve. Their naïvete is their purity, and it is the reason their mind does not visit dark corners- where hurt lies and where lies lie.

To Real Eyes, there is no option, no other road to take, than one of truth- because they realize, what is the point in a lie, anyway?

Their fault (or blessing) is that they only see the beauty in others, and they do not see the logic behind these dark corners- so they are blinded to them.

Real Eyes are too beautiful to realize Real Lies.

Interestingly, there is also a parallel to this.

Real Lies only know rough edges. They expect deceit, they expect hurt. Real Eyes seem too good to be true to Real Lies.

So they fear them.

This is when you realize ignorance is a double-edged sword.